Dating wierd people
I filed both of these under “things you can only appreciate while middle-aged.” But despite the age difference (and his idiosyncrasies) we had some things in common.For instance, we were both making our first attempts at writing books.The Older Man was also my editor, which added a power imbalance to the mix—a dynamic we all know can be equal parts problematic and irresistible.People raise their eyebrows at relationships with a significant age gap: If you’re the older guy, you’re creepy and exploitative; if you’re the older woman, you’re both of those things plus delusional about your shelf life.He controlled the relationship, at least superficially.I quickly learned that constantly feeling like a dependent child can be a real boner-killer. When the Older Man and I eventually ended it, I chalked it up to the age gap.I wonder: What do we gain and lose from dating someone of a different generation? For one, he wore silk onesie pajamas that he meticulously ironed to have a crease down the center of the pant leg.
Age-gap relationships come with a certain amount of stigma, and that external skepticism can start to infiltrate your couple.When I was 25, I spent a year dating a man 20 years older than me.